new shipping stickers ❤ Guanyin the Mercy-full
been thinking a lot about boundaries and their functions
hot contrarian take 🔥👌
boundaries miiiiight be bullshit
I honestly don't know anymore if acknowledging and reinforcing our boundaries is a good thing
I think they allow people to hide behind their pain and stick with their unprocessed shit by putting up the wall of "healthy boundaries"
what is actually healty?
what is actually unhealthy?
I do this all the time: in an effort to stop feeling uncomfortable with pain or my trauma or my tiggers or the more tender work needed to understand why I need the damn boundaries in the first place, I put up a boundary to have distance and not stay present
but I've been coming to this bigger question because my meditation practice and deep dives into Buddhism and Daoism are boundary dissolving to their core
to touch the infinite (in ourselves, others, the universe), we bring ourselves to the absolute brink (boundary of our comfort zone)
we feel out the limit and then we jump off the fucking cliff
THIS dissolution has always brought me CLOSER to life
I don't know if boundaries push us away from things-- maybe they bring us closer to ourselves, but I'm not so sure anymore
maybe it's about the container and the context
permeable boundaries with an abusive parent is a terrible idea, permeable boundaries when exploring the self is a good idea
is that even true?
I could make a case that the opposite could be helpful (I've learned a ton of valuable lessons wading in those waters)
and who is teaching us to turn boundaries on and off-- showing us when they're good to use and when they're not good to use
I see more and more people weaponizing their boundaries and their trauma-- which always seems so bound up, making them kind of untouchables, who are above feeling the human shit we are designed to feel
questions on my mind 🤷♀️
with Guanyin reminding me that ego is okay, pain is okay, confusion is okay, self righteousness is okay, boundaries are okay, no boundaries are okay, trauma is okay, bodies are okay, emotions are okay, mercy is okay, prostration is okay 👌 all is okay
