The importance of saying no
As women, we're taught to be yielding. As women, we're taught to make space. As women, we're taught to stay quiet.
All of this comes at an expense. All of this leads us down a path of self-doubt, self-criticism, and self-censorship. All of this is in an effort to make others feel comfortable. To prioritize their convenience over our own. To crown and serve an other Master.
We are like this little petal-- hanging on by a thread and spinning out of control. The more we move away from our inner space and our inner voice, the more we divorce from what gives us life. From what guides us. Our Spirit. Our core.
Fuck. That. Shit.
We need to allow our selves the space to figure out our "no" and our "yes". To breathe into those boundaries. To understand what feels good and what feels bad. We need to say NO to the things that don't feel right. We need to see our selves for what we want, what we need, and what we will fight for.
We need to not wait for permission (no one will give it to us better than we can). We need to take responsibility for making our selves whole (no one will help us better than we can). We need to see the light at our core, the thing that makes us who we are, the Spirit emanating through (no one will show us to us better than we can). Stand up. Dig deep. Rage against the injustices in your life. Facing all the anger and fear will allow you to soften and accept the most hidden part of your being. The parts that we're most ashamed of.
Not everyone is Mother Mary.
A lot of us are Goddess Pele-- consuming everything and burning shit down. And, in that space, of creating hard boundaries (as simple and complex as life and death) she makes room for the new. She gives growth. She gives life. But she needs to take too.
Follow Pele to the depth of your fire and fall in love with what you find. Her dance is an absolute destroyer.